Showing posts with label Parenting. Show all posts
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August 20, 2014

Making the Most of a Small Nursery


My family is now two months in with baby #2, my sweet and poop-laden little girl.  I finally caught her nursery in a moment where the planets had aligned- my favorite sheets on the crib, everything clean and tidy, nice afternoon lighting, and both kids asleep and out of my hair for a while.  I took my chance to nab some pics to show off the nursery and to use as a bit of documentation for my nursery organization tips.  Both my son and daughter have pretty small rooms- perhaps 9' x 10'?- in our townhouse.  This really isn't a problem during the baby/toddler years as there is no need or expectation for these to be places for the kids to really run around and play in.  However, for taking care of a baby, you need to jam pack that space in a functional way so that you can change, feed, and soothe that screaming baby at any moment of the day, on any scrap of sleep (or lack thereof) you may have claim to.  Most of the things I've done are carryovers from lessons learned with kid #1, so they've stood the test of time and if anything got a bit honed with experience.

But first, the ooh and aah pics:



Oh dresser, your remodel was so fun!



Psst- quilt!


Love it.  Mossy monogram and mobile skills- yay!  As my husband said, a bit surprised, everything goes together so well.  It's like I had a plan in mind or something.  ;)




Before we knew the sex of the baby, I already had my heart set on a forest theme.  I wanted blues, greens, and browns for the color scheme, all because I fell in love with a picture from Pinterest.  Once we knew we were having a girl, I made the theme feminine with the patterns, textures, and details.  Birds became a recurring theme, white elements with curls and spirals were introduced by way of the floor lamp and the little bunny potpourri holder, and I chose that great floral crib sheet.  I think it all came together in a great way, not in a traditional girly theme but still feminine.  To me, it's Mod Cloth meets Etsy.

Anyway, on to the organization tips!  

1. Double Duty Furniture. First up is my furniture find with the two-in-one crib and changing table.  I simply placed a changing pad on my son's dresser with our first rodeo, but that did mean I needed a nearby stand to hold all the diapers and wipes.  It worked, but I knew there could be better options.  I liked the idea of the corner changing tables as another space-saving approach, but fell in love with the crib I found on Wayfair.  Everything is close and easy at hand, but takes up less space than having separate pieces to accomplish the same goal.

2. Double Duty Decorations.  That bird cage with the twinkle lights?  It's both adorable AND serves as a dim light for middle of the night wake ups, diaper changes, feedings, etc.  Why have a separate table lamp when we can combine needs and style this way?  I also wanted a cute bird house for the room, and realized I needed a hook to hang wet laundry.  Screw a hook into the bottom of a $1 birdhouse from Michaels that I painted white, and we're in the double duty decoration business.  It really is that easy!

3.  Store Like Items Together.  This may seem intuitive but really, it needs to be said.  Each type of thing does not need its own storage space.  You do not need separate drawer space or storage bins (as cute as they may be) for swaddle blankets, burp cloths, crib sheets, pack and play sheets, bassinet sheets, etc.  Think about the function of the item, and group like that.  Here's how the changing table shelves are organized, as an example:

Now, diapers and hair bows may not seem like they go together, but when I'm doing quick work on the changing pad, they're things I like to have right at hand and don't have to fuss around with.  I'm not gazing adoringly over hair accessories all laid out nicely in some display- I'm grabbing one from a stash that isn't taking up valuable drawer space.  Because of the size of my basket, I can fit 3 rows of diapers but have an extra couple inches of otherwise wasted space.  I thought of what else would fit in that area and also be necessary to grab with ease, and that's when the bows came to mind.
Take a look at the next container for medical items- I needed something with a low side so I could easily pump some hand sanitizer without picking it up out of the bin, and where I could arrange things like diaper rash cream where they wouldn't be in a jumble.  Lesser-used items like q-tips, baby tylenol, baby oil, and lotion are further back.  I even have a few spare pacifiers tossed in there.
I have a pack of wipes on top of the changing pad, and the refills are in the big basket at the back, as well as nursing items like extra pump parts, creams, etc.  This is my stock basket if you will- things not in the daily rotation.  It's my baby supply pantry I guess.
Next row down, at the front we have swaddle blankets (both small and large, cotton and muslin, as well as those velcro kind) and burp cloths.  The thinking again is- what do I need frequently, and needs to be easy to grab?  Well, we go through swaddlers and burp cloths all day every day at this stage, so they get pride of place at the front of the shelf where they can be grabbed the moment that Mount Vesuvius of spit up starts to bubble in my daughter's mouth.
At the back are the backup items again, this time for all things fabric- sheets, covers, towels, etc. that are not necessarily daily use.  That basket is stacked to the brim.  I don't mind digging through the assorted treasures in there for what I need because I'm not doing it often.  And that's the big trade off you make with the small space- use prominent space for the essentials needed all day every day.  Use tucked away spaces for the infrequent items, lumped together (though still organized).
Underneath the shelves I have the humidifier tucked away, as well as my memory box for odds and ends during baby's 1st year.  When she outgrows favorite outfits, gets special cards from family, a growth chart or two from the pediatrician, those things will get put away in the box along with our hospital bracelets and her crib card.  I may or may not turn some things into a scrapbook, but I like having a set place to toss these little items without having to think about what I may or may not do with them down the road.  The important thing is that there IS a designated box for them, instead of having them squirreled around the nursery, my room, the attic, etc. and that it is easy to get to so those special items don't pile up in a "to be organized" stack.
This is the same mantra for baby toys stored in the ottoman, and stuffed animals and blankies in the basket next to the crib.  Need something soft and snuggly, or something fun?  To me, those are different purposes, and are needed with different degrees of urgency.  Soft comfort item- NOW! means instant access with a basket.
Even the dresser is organized this way.  Daily clothes in the top drawer (grabbed most often).  Pajamas and socks in the 2nd drawer, typically only used once a day.  Larger clothes baby girl can't wear yet are in the 3rd and 4th drawers.

4. A Nursery can Store Other Things, Too.  Before this room was an adorable nursery, it was a guest room, office, gift wrap central, and storage room for more frequently used things.  We gave the daybed to a friend, shifted some of the storage to other areas in the house, moved a bookshelf to the living room, and donated end tables to Goodwill.  That pretty much cleared out the main space of the room, but the whole closet was still full and more than that, still in use.  This was needed space that was working well for us, and at a certain point I realized that didn't need to change.  Now, I will need to baby proof that space with time, but for now I realized that my family can still use the closet space in exactly the same way.  Just because this is the baby's room doesn't mean that all other things must be banned.  So here is the dirty secret behind those cute closet curtains:

The closet still houses important documents, ribbons, fabric, gift wrap, and office supplies.  It now has the pleasure to keep a baby gate for future use and boxes of diapers.  Eventually the little girl clothes will take over this space, but for now we're good, and I think that is my biggest motto of parenting: do what works for today.  When it doesn't work anymore, find a new way, but figure it out when the time comes.  :)

July 10, 2014

Dresser Makeover: Paint Job and Scrapbook Paper Drawers

Ever since I finished that pesky MBA, my crafting ambitions have been increasingly loftier.  Over the past couple months, my eyes have been on the prize of this dresser makeover.  A hand-me-down from step-in-law-in-laws (my husband's stepbrother's father-in-law's house- seriously), this dresser was the perfect style I wanted and just needed to be spruced to fit in with the rest of the nursery being put together for my early bird daughter.

Before.  It's got good lines and stuff.  Even if my husband doesn't care for Mod furniture.  Price: $0, unless you count the cost of gas to drive a few hours and back to get it from the distant relation by marriage's house.

For comparison, here's a sample of the kinds of dressers I was mooning over via Pinterest.  Cost?  $800 - $3,000.

So my plan was to sand it, paint white, and add scrapbook paper to the sides of the drawers similar to other fun projects I saw on Pinterest where people painted or mod podged drawers in kids' rooms.  I used this site's great advice on painting furniture, and agree that the Zinsser primer is the way to go.  Hubby helped me, and a good thing too, because we finished painting a mere 8 hours before my water broke.  Hah... hah...  I said my daughter was an early bird, right?  I thought I had 4 more weeks to easily wrap up this dresser project.  Instead, she was born the next day and I had to squeeze in my Mod Podge scrapbook paper-ing work in the odd bits of time here and there over the last few weeks.  All's well that ends well, though!

Donezo!
 

So what took place to get this nice result?

Supplies
  • Wood fill, if necessary
  • Mouse sander and paper
  • Medium-grit sandpaper
  • 1 quart Zinsser primer (or any adhesive primer)
  • 1/2 gallon white paint. I used leftover paint already on hand from painting a pantry door- Behr interior semi-gloss.  Aside: I've decided I do in fact hate Behr paint.  It always feels a little bit tacky- like stuff sticks to it, you know?  Doesn't get a nice finish like other brands.  Same is true for walls I've painted with Behr.
  • Paint brushes, trays, etc. (use a roller or not as you prefer; I didn't like the roller look so used brushes all over this project)
  • Medium jar glossy Mod Podge
  • Optional: foam roller to apply Mod Podge, but a paint brush works fine as well
  • Scrapbook paper (at least 2 sheets for each drawer; I recommend a different pattern for each drawer instead of doing all of the drawers in one pattern)
  • Scissors
Directions
  1. Fill any gouges, nail holes, etc. with wood fill as needed.  Allow to dry and sand.
  2. Sand dresser body and drawer fronts with mouse sander (like our Black & Decker one).  Our dresser had a bit of a laminate finish, so we opted for this more aggressive sanding than just a light once-over with sandpaper.
  3. Sand details, such as handles, thin arches, feet, etc. with small square of sandpaper.
  4. Wipe down/brush off entire dresser, including insides, to remove dust from sanding.  All it takes is one sneeze into that dust once you've started painting to make you unleash a torrent of swear words on your project, so just save yourself the anger.
  5. Apply a light coat of primer all over.  DO prime and paint sides of drawers that will not be covered by scrapbook paper, such as drawer fronts where they attach to drawer bodies.  Look at my "after" pic on the right and you'll see where hubby and I said "we don't need to paint that part, right?  Right..." and turns out we should have.  Oh well.  Mine isn't the pristine style; it's a bit of shabby chic I guess, so this was fine by me.  My younger, more OCD self would not have allowed for such tomfoolery.
  6. Paint with 2 or 3 coats paint.
  7. Cut scrapbook paper to size for drawer sides.  Now, note that you do NOT have to cover the entire drawer side in scrapbook paper.  My drawers were wider than the large square sheets of paper, but I didn't mess with trying to perfectly cover the entire side.  You only have to cover as much of the drawer as you see when you pull it out to grab clothes.  You don't pull the drawer out all the way, so you don't need to cover the sides all the way.  Save yourself a headache and some paper. :)
  8. Brush Mod Podge on drawer sides.  Carefully lay paper onto drawer sides, starting at one edge and slowly smoothing down paper bit-by-bit.  Let dry.  Brush on top layer of Mod Podge on scrapbook paper.  I learned AFTER the fact that if you apply the Mod Podge on top while your "under" layer (attaching the paper to the furniture) is still wet, this is why you get wrinkles and bubbles.  This explains why my first drawer (my test one, where I was meticulous and waited for each step to dry) was nice and smooth and my other drawers (where I was falsely confident that I knew what I was doing) were bubbled.  Humpf.  Well, if you're in for a penny with non-perfect styling, in for a pound.
  9. Put drawers back into dresser and grin like a fool over your DIY furniture makeover!
My sanding servant, I mean, helper.

See, we sanded down a good bit to get that laminate texture off.

Our mouse sander put to good use!

Primer applied.  I still stand by my assertion that you don't need a thick coat of primer.  I did the right side.

The frugal partner's thin coat.

The spender's thick coat.  Also: side-to-side paint strokes.  What?!?

Painted.  Looks great!

I see nothing superior about this side that was so generously primed...  ;)

Ok, now we're on to the scrapbook paper stage!  Note that the paper doesn't cover the entire side because this is just a cute peek-a-boo when you open the drawers.  Also note the edge that we decided not to paint, and should have.  Currently on the "touch up" list.

Remember what I said about bubbles?  Ugh!  So beautiful on the other drawer, and so bubbly here.

But hey, it looks pretty great in the end, so count me happy!

June 20, 2014

Effective Communication is Hard When Sleep Deprived and There's a Crying Baby in the Room

Well, exciting news for the blog- my family has grown!  Little baby girl was born this past Monday, a good month ahead of schedule.  She's a cheeky girl, this one.  All the same, my husband and I are crazy about her and doing well juggling a newborn, 4-year-old, and an overprotective dog.  My husband has started a blog to share his adventures and mishaps as a newly-minted stay at home dad- 57 Ways to Screw up my Children.  It's a fun read, especially seeing our random conversations captured.  That's his baby, and I'm not going to direct any of its content, but at about 2ish something am last night, I definitely got the idea for a blog post and wasn't going to make him write it.  Hence this guy- a shift from my normal recipes and crafts.  Enjoy.  ;)

So a perfectly natural and assumed part of having a baby is that you are going to be up through the night.  A lot.  You will get tired and it will be harder sometimes than others.  You know this going in, especially with baby #2, but that doesn't mean that you are any more functional for that knowledge and preparedness.  Cue 2-something am last night, where I was reminded that effective communication between two sleep deprived adults is hard.  Set a screaming baby in the room, and suddenly buttons are pressed all over and you find yourself experiencing some more animalistic feelings.  Let me set a tableau for you that I'm sure goes on in any family with a newborn, fully aware of my feminine hyperbole:

Parent 1: Wakes up.  Blinks and stares at crying baby.
Parent 2: Wakes up.  Stares at bedroom wall in a daze, sitting on edge of bed.
Baby: Cries.
Parent 1: Looks over at baby, looks at Parent 2, points at baby.
Parent 2: Stares at Parent 1 in a daze.
Parent 1: Points more emphatically at crying baby.
Baby: Crying, turning pink.
Parent 2: Picks up crying baby, begins to adjust swaddle.
Parent 1: For unknown reason, displeased at this action by Parent 2.  Puts hands on hips.
Parent 2: Stares at Parent 1 in a now confused daze.  Snuggles baby.
Baby: Still crying.
Parent 1: Pulls hair in confused exasperation
Parent 2: Resorts to primal gestures and expressions.  Bares teeth.
Parent 1: Responds by batting air with clawed hands.
Parent 2: Huffs and walks out of room with baby; goes to nursery.
Parent 1: Follows closely.
Baby: Cries louder.

At this stage, both parents and the baby are all operating on instinct and that little stub at the base of the brain, while the "smart" part of the brain is still fast asleep.  Luckily, swaddling has become an instinctual skill for both parents, so Parent 2 is able to swaddle the baby without trouble, performing the actions almost automatically.  While a useful skill, it does not further effective communication between the two parents.  While they are more awake now, and begin to use their words instead of beast-like gestures, those words don't make much sense and are drowned out by baby cries, and furthermore lead to emotional sensitivities because even the most basic, non-argumentative comments turn into threats when shouted.  Let's continue our scene:

Parent 1: I need to nurse-
Baby: Cries.
Parent 2: WHAT?!
Parent 1, affronted: Don't yell at me!  I was just saying-
Baby: Cries
Parent 2: I'M NOT YELLING!  I JUST CAN'T HEAR YOU OVER THE-
Baby: Howls
Parent 1: WELL IT FEELS LIKE YOU'RE YELLING AT ME.
Parent 2: FOR THE LOVE OF... WHAT DO YOU NEED?
Parent 1: I KNEW YOU WERE YELLING AT ME!  JUST GIVE ME-
Baby: Cries, face turning red
Parent 2: WHAT?  GIVE YOU WHAT?
Parent 1: OMG JUST GIVE ME-
Baby: Turns into a demon; cries more
Parent 2: I. CAN'T. HEAR. YOU.  WHAT DO YOU-
Baby: Cries
Parent 1: THE BABY!  THE FREAKING BABY!
Parent 2: NO NEED TO BE UPSET!
Parent 1: OMG I HATE LIFE!

At this point, a basic message (give me the baby so I can nurse her) has finally been conveyed, though with battered feelings and irrational responses peppered along the way.  Parent 1 nurses, the baby magically turns calm, and both parents go back to bed.  At this point, the helpful frontal cortex switches on in both parents, now that it is no longer needed.
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This leads to the next phase of helpful nighttime thinking: laying in bed and making up mental lists for the next day.  These lists feel Very Important and are impossible to squash at the time.  However, they are deceptive.

List, as perceived by sleep-deprived parent lying awake in bed at 2:30 am:
  • Thing to schedule tomorrow
  • Bills
  • Useful question to ask the doctor
  • Very Important Stuff
  • Apologize to other parent
List, as actually thought by sleep-deprived parent lying awake in bed at 2:30 am:
  • I need to sprinkle the dog tomorrow
  • George Washington
  • Hieroglyphics (not actual thought)
  • It is very useful for society to have manhole covers
  • I love that baby
Thankfully, the only item recalled from either list in the morning is that that baby is adored and loved by both parents.